Dating in a christian relationship
Let's go through what I hope will become the usual drill here.
I will lay out what I view to be applicable biblical principles and passages on this topic, and then I and the editors will leave it to you to follow up with blog posts, comments and discussion.
All of these topics will, Lord willing, be covered in future columns.
It's simply impossible for me to address all of the fantastic individual questions and comments we've received, but know that we will do our very best to incorporate as many as possible into the columns themselves and the blog discussions that follow. Quite a few of you asked questions or made comments about my statement in Biblical Dating, an Introduction that "Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy" outside of marriage.
If proper boundaries are not established, increasing intimacy can have some undesirable results – such as feelings of abuse or betrayal following a break-up, loss of appropriate personal boundaries without a commensurate commitment, and beginning to become one before the couple actually belongs to one another.
With this in mind, let's explore some boundary guidelines.
This is a blog filled with both Christian dating advice and Christian marriage advice for believers to develop Christ-centered romantic relationships.
We get so many questions about dating, relationships, girlfriends and boyfriends, physical intimacy, and the whole list of awkward sex questions.
And that's totally okay by us because we're glad you're looking for biblical answers to these questions rather than trying to figure out the whole dating thing on your own or basing your actions on what the world tells you to do (2 Peter ).
Many wanted to know, did I really mean no physical intimacy? Isn't it sex outside of marriage that Scripture explicitly prohibits?
How can you say definitively that other things are wrong? Shouldn't our physical relationship "progress" as other aspects of our relationship deepen? I understand most physical stuff is wrong, but what about just kissing? With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.